An important fact about me is that I’m an avid reader of relationship self-help books (and I’m not afraid to admit it or offer suggestions on which of these books I think would benefit your current situation).
One of the key lessons that all of the books has taught is hard to get. And let me tell you - this is not just for romantic relationships.
It applies to Evite too.
Sending multiple messages and reminders from Evite is the equivalent of leaving someone a voicemail and then texting him to make sure he listens to the voicemail and following up with an e-mail with a voice note attachment to make sure that the text didn’t seem too pushy but that he should really listen to the voicemail.
It’s a lot.
One Evite is enough, and the auto 24 hour prior reminder is tolerable. Any reminder or message beyond that is excessive. Even if it’s under the guise of communicating “essential” event information (everyone will figure out where to park, promise), your real friends don’t need any further reminders to make it. And yes, room fillers are totes necessary for the popularity factor, but those people are more likely to come if you appear too cool to have to remind them.